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Nachos, always having been a favorite of mine, makes today’s mexican celebration a good one…so a very Happy Cinco de Mayo to you all.

A very close dear friend of ours is heading over with dinner and all the mexican fixings to celebrate with us all…thank you my dear!!! — and up to you if you leave the maracas on the list —our girls may never get to sleep nor the neighbors :)

As for me, how I’ve aged thinking I’ll have the Tums on hand in advance to keep myself going. Enjoy the day!

I’ve always known the importance of good back posture for so many reasons tied to overall skeletal functioning and a whole host of well being reasons. For me the focus on good posture is really to help me regain what will feel like greater lung capacity.

For the few hours each day I’m not in bed, I stand completely hunched over as if to not stretch any incision and in general to just help eliminate pain. Tip to all- good posture is good for all any day! I’ll get mine back again …. soon I hope!

As you know, CancerByTheDay.com is my personal journey shared with you all.

From sharing highs to lows, it’s a story to help you feel close to us where ever you are and for all the strangers to gain insights to help them on their journey.

So in the midst of all the upbeat posts, comes today…..quite an emotional down day for me. No particular reason, it’s sort of a “tears flow” and I just let them go pattern.

A close friend did give me a heads up in advance, that it often happens usually after weeks meds have set in and weaning down starts to occur.

In what I know is with great cleansing power, I’ve had more rounds of tears today than any other day. So let’s c’mon April’s showers …bring on a better May! :)

The link to this site is now public as you may have seen through an email.  My diagnosis is not easy news to hear, but I want to ensure everyone that I’m in complete control. 

The last few months I’ve taken a completely methodical approach – mentally, emotionally and spiritually to get a grip. Those that I’ve been able to see and speak to, know the amazing position of strength in which I stand right now.  I’m not just doing good marketing :)  It’s already a story worth telling and I hope it helps many now and many to come.

This site will help us keep in touch with so many of you especially over the next few months, and to make it a two way communication vechicle, please leave a comment by the link below any post as much as you’d like!  

A comment added generates a note to a central location —when I am up for reading it, or having them read to me— that will be priceless in the upcoming days and weeks, so I look forward to hearing from you.

Being one of two daughters in our family, I’ve never second guessed the power of sisterhood. 

Life has brought two daughters to us and they already seem to be best friends …and naturally brewing, wonderfully supportive siblings with rivalry.  It’s a blessing that our girls are 3 and 4 years old as I take on this journey.  In times of the welled up tears, they still just look at me and sing nursery rhymes.  In time they will know went on with mom, for now, they’ll stay at grandma and grandpa’s while we “re-do their bedrooms” and I recover. (They’ll be coming back home to the best girlie decorated penthouses this side of town!)

Regardless, through good times and bad, I’ve always had my sister by my side.  For my sister, a mother of three sons and one daughter, it gave me the beautiful chance to build relationships with of their babies and special moments along the way, and a subset of that was with the little girl and now a beautiful young lady…inside and out. 

When Bruce and I found out that I was pregnant, I knew my  neice joined me in wanting more girls in the family.  We were just too outnumbered. I promised her that when we found out the sex of the baby to be, if it was a girl, she’s be the third to know.  And as my luck would have it, our first baby was indeed, a girl.  At 9:20pm, I knew it was a bit late to call to announce the news, but heck, it was special.  I dialed my sister’s home and asked for my niece, who was asleep.  I said I just wanted to share some news and the family knew, “pink” was on the way.

As daughter #2 came the following year, more “pink” was in our future.  So between our house and their’s, we had tied the score – three boys and three girls.  My neice has just been such an outstanding person, wise beyond her years and just all around such a special person to me.

It did sadden me to hear that she awoke and heard her mom crying downstairs one night.  It was right after the unfortunate news delivery from me to my sister, her mom, of my breast cancer diagnosis.  She directly asked her mom what was wrong, and rightfully so, my sister shared the news openly with her.  Such a burden of news to share with anyone, but I could only smile at the text message I got from my niece the next day…that she was thinking of me, loved me and sent hugs to Uncle Bruce and the girls.  Amazing strength, but no surprise of this … our first baby girl, now our young woman stood up strong for me.  I love you dearly and look forward to your day of Auntie duty :) .