Archive for April 9th, 2010
The Last Friday Night
Passing the “less than one week away” hit me hard. Each day became the last of the ones before surgery and treatments.
Friday this week was shared with a financial planner, life’s housekeeping continued. Doing tax season I realized what a complex setup we have. Accounts are all over the place, in one or both names, some in my maiden name, others we are already clueless if they still exist. Not good on any day. So we pulled together all the statements we could and went through them. Ah, what a headache, but a necessary evil…we’ll be more tidy as we go. Another tip if you wish to do some “life housekeeping”, have a summary of everything you have, where and it’s purpose.
OK, we went from being responsible to …heck, it’s a Friday Night! So rather than picking up the girls, we called my parents and they were pleased to keep them overnight. Bruce had a wonderful plan. He whisked me off to New Haven to make the most of this Friday night and figured out how to get more housekeeping done with drinks in hand.
We sat in a wonderful lounge bar — with laptop connected to wi-fi. Bruce and I went through all our contact lists and started the dreaded task of prep for the mass news email. We had planned to get this out already several times, and have tried to make as many personal calls as possible, but time was now just running out.
We sat amongst Yale college kids, but we were on laptops …Some last calls were made, emails set and tears shed. But the list was pulled together…with gaps I’m sure, but I’m trying to give up some of the Type A Control Freak nature…and just keep moving along. We thought through all the wonderful people, blurted out stories, memories and were sure to read each name out load just to have them in our thoughts…and with us in that way.
Then I turned to Bruce and said, walk to the closet hotel and let’s get a room! Which he did and a lovely corner suite I might add…so, the party continued and we had a glorious last Friday night with cancer. Only new Friday Nights to come!
To all that we could not reach personally: please stay strong, I’m fine and we all will be fine…it’s terrible news for me to share and be the root cause of sadden in others. So smile as you know how I’m doing at any point!